Thank God I have an extremely patient and loving husband who didn’t get mad at me or judge me, but instead came into the room and let me cry and unleash all that I was feeling. “I’m done. I’m spent. I can’t parent this child any longer. I don’t want to be her parent any longer. I just want to run away.” He let me go on and on for a long time. No judgment. No anger. No telling me I was wrong for how I was feeling. None of that. He just listened and understood. He got it. He gets it.He lives this life of a special needs parent too. Saying what I was feeling out loud made me feel better. So much better. I went out to the living room area and apologized to my kids (Emma and Nolan) for my behavior and made sure they both knew that none of this was their fault. Emma apologized for being grumpy at dinner and I apologized to her, for about the millionth time this year, that she had to live this life with her sister. She always responds with, “Its okay mom. I’m so sorry that you have to deal with so much with her.” To which my reply is always, “I don’t ever want you to feel like I don’t have anything left for you. I always do and I always will.” These are the moments that I know I would never have with Emma if we didn’t have a special needs child. She and I would not have the close knit relationship that we have if it wasn’t for Gillian. For that I am oh so very grateful.
We ended the evening with four of us sitting on the very small hotel room couch together while watching Spider-Man. Gillian laid on her bed next to the couch and fell fast asleep. She was exhausted. This poor adult child of mine has no control over her anxiety or her body or her emotions. My heart was happy and aching all at the same time....... to be continued.
*A couple of the forced smiles pictures*
-The Hubs and Nolan-
-Me and Gillian-
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